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July 3, 2013

SAUDI ARABIA: For Some Women, Not Driving Is A Paralyzing Issue

2345068252_a4f24a3901We always talk about “first world problems,” and, I, most of the time, complain about women not being able to drive in Saudi Arabia in the “first world problem” sense. “My driver is late!” or “It’s too hot in the car. I wish he’d switch on the AC before I get in” or “Why does it take so long for my driver to answer his phone!”

It’s easy for me to forget that for the majority of women in Saudi, it is very much a paralyzing issue. As I was leaving Saudi last week, I was in the airport lounge, and one of the women working there was having a private conversation on her mobile which got progressively louder. She kept saying, “Swear he’s ok! Why can’t I talk to him?”

After she hung up she said to me, “My son has had an accident!” I asked if he was ok. She told me she didn’t know and that someone at the scene had called her and told her about it, but they wouldn’t give him the phone and wouldn’t give her details. I asked why she didn’t just go to him, and she told me she couldn’t.

“Surely your supervisor wouldn’t have a problem with you leaving early to go there!” I said.

“I don’t have any way of getting there!”, she said. “My son is usually my driver. I don’t have brothers, and I’m divorced.”

And that’s the simple truth. Her son was on a street somewhere, in God knows what state ,and she was stuck at work. She eventually took a cab and declined the offer to use my car.

I always dread talking about women driving in Saudi because it’s been talked to death, and there’s nothing to discuss, really, since the fact that women should be allowed to drive is such an obvious one. It’s like discussing if women should be allowed to work… or walk even. Not driving means different things to different people. To me, it’s something I don’t think about on a day-to-day basis, unless we have a driver crisis. But even then, I rely on my mother’s, sister’s or brother’s driver to get me where I need to go, and I have never been stranded at home or elsewhere because of it. I forget that this is not the case for everyone.

Yes, some of my friends can’t do lunches on certain days because of the driver issues (lack of reliable ones or lack of ones all together), so when their husbands work they have to stay home. While many, many Saudi families have a driver working for them, not all of them do. And honestly, who cares if I can’t get to my family visit on time or to the shops before they close, when this mother couldn’t get to her son, who I pray was not badly injured in this accident.

And if, God forbid, he was badly injured, or worse, and he is her only “mahram” (male guardian), then she effectively has to put her life on hold till he gets better. And if it’s not a “getting better” situation, then she is stuck. Driving will be only one of her problems.

We do have taxis, which are generally decent, but many women don’t like to use them or the men in their lives don’t like them to. Which is all fine and dandy if these men are willing to be their wives’ personal chauffeurs, but if they refuse, then the women are stuck. But they do sometimes say “no,” and their wives, sisters, daughters comply. I have never really asked my husband how he would feel about me riding a taxi, since there never was a need to before, but I know that even if he didn’t want me to ride one, for what ever reason, he would never tell me I couldn’t.

Work has already begun on the metro system in Riyadh, and I am assuming that it will have a similar set up to Dubai, where there is a women’s tram. (Although in Dubai it is optional to go on that tram.) It will be interesting to see what we end up with, but is public transportation the answer to this problem? No.

Women being allowed to drive is a change that has to happen. It’s going to happen. I can guarantee that, but when? And the assumption that this is a governmental decision is totally wrong as the government is doing what the majority of the population wants.

When the subject of women driving is raised, it is always surprising how many people are against it. Women included. When they decided to introduce girls’ schools, the community also spoke out against it and were fearful and pessimistic. But the government just made the change, and the people got used to it.  Now more than half the college graduates in Saudi are women! So, I hope we just rip the band-aid off.

And maybe the people will come around eventually and want this change, but how long do we want to wait? So many changes have come into our country, culture and environment that people are afraid to open up anymore, but there will be no progress without it.

Maybe I am wrong though. Maybe the views have changed, but the loudest voices are still of those who are against this. In Saudi the moderate voice is the one that talks at home among friends but doesn’t really rock the boat. The extreme views tend to be loud and very well organised.

A little side note to mention is there is no law against women driving. But there is a law against driving without a license, and women can’t get their licenses in Saudi.

It should just be done! Just as the 30 women were elected into the shours counsil by royal decree one morning, this change can happen too. It would, by no means, be mandatory, and whoever doesn’t want to drive, doesn’t have to. But for the women who are paralyzed, stuck and unable to get to their sons when they are hurt, a key to a car is not much to ask.

Do you agree with me that sometimes making unpopular decisions that will better your country is ok? Or is the government’s duty? Or do you think what the people want is more important? 

This is an original post to World Moms Blog by Mama B from Saudi Arabia. She can be found writing at her blog, Ya Maamaa.
Photo credit to hhdoan who holds a Creative Commons Attribution license. 

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Mama B (Saudi Arabia)

Mama B’s a young mother of four beautiful children who leave her speechless in both, good ways and bad. She has been married for 9 years and has lived in London twice in her life. The first time was before marriage (for 4 years) and then again after marriage and kid number 2 (for almost 2 years). She is settled now in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia (or as settled as one can be while renovating a house). Mama B loves writing and has been doing it since she could pick up a crayon. Then, for reasons beyond her comprehension, she did not study to become a writer, but instead took graphic design courses. Mama B writes about the challenges of raising children in this world, as it is, who are happy, confident, self reliant and productive without driving them (or herself) insane in the process. Mama B also sheds some light on the life of Saudi, Muslim children but does not claim to be the voice of all mothers or children in Saudi. Just her little "tribe." She has a huge, beautiful, loving family of brothers and sisters that make her feel like she wants to give her kids a huge, loving family of brothers and sisters, but then is snapped out of it by one of her three monkeys screaming “Ya Maamaa” (Ya being the arabic word for ‘hey’). You can find Mama B writing at her blog, Ya Maamaa . She's also on Twitter @YaMaamaa.

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  1. Mama Mzungu (Kenya) says

    July 3, 2013 at 2:50 am

    Oh, I think unpopular decisions are often what societies need, it’s just hard to know what they are sometimes. Civil rights in the US was, for a long time, unpopular but needed to happen. I guess, and here goes a controversial statement: sometimes even in democracies the “tyranny of the masses” prevails and human rights are trampled on simply because the culture popularly allows it. But it does seem like this law is really hamstringing women in Saudi. Maybe it would take a tragedy happening to someone in the ruling class as a result of a woman not being able to drive to finally get some change. Who knows. But thanks for opening our eyes to this subject!

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  2. Mamma Simona says

    July 3, 2013 at 4:30 am

    Wow, Mama B, I had no idea!

    I don’t like driving and would love a chauffeur at my beck & call, but I can imagine how frantic that poor mom was! In SA our public transport isn’t very good and I’m grateful every day that I have a car and can drive it. Although if the petrol price keeps increasing as it has been … maybe not for much longer!

    I totally agree that woman should be allowed to drive (obviously)! In fact, it really irks me when some human beings are treated differently just because of their gender, religious beliefs, sexual orientation or ethnicity. It’s way past time that everyone was treated as a human being – with the same rights as everyone else!

    Unfortunately, this reminds me of that famous line in George Orwell’s book, Animal Farm, which states; “All animals were created equal, but some are more equal than others.” 🙁

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  3. Purnima @ The Alchemist's Blog says

    July 3, 2013 at 7:03 am

    I think what a man does, a woman should do too. Nothing to do with government or people or anything else. What any human being does, another human being should be able to. Period!

    I prefer my husband to drive, because the traffic here in India is so annoying and it stresses me out. But I think that woman should be allowed to drive to get to her son. That is not fair that women are not allowed to drive (indirectly).

    Thank you for talking about this today.

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  4. Jennifer Prestholdt says

    July 3, 2013 at 8:49 am

    Thank you for sharing this poignant story. It really brings home the deeper impact of the law. It also illustrates the lack of choice that women have about on the question of whether or not they will drive a car. Thanks again!

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  5. Jennifer Burden says

    July 3, 2013 at 10:16 am

    Hi Mama B.,

    First, congrats on winning a BlogHer “Voices of the Year” yesterday!

    I can’t imagine life without being able to drive. We can change our plans in a heartbeat. I couldn’t imagine having to call a driver because I forgot my daughter’s potty seat, or that we decided to accompany friends to another park on a whim. As a stay-at-home mom in the US suburbs, driving is super helpful.

    A driver sounds like a luxury, but only if they followed you around all day, right?

    Don’t ever stop voicing your opinion and reporting on your experiences and culture. I love reading all about your life!

    Jen 🙂

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  6. deborah l quinn says

    July 3, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    Women in Abu Dhabi can drive, although many of them (expats and Emiratis alike) have drivers (sometimes supplied by their employers); Emirati women’s cars have completely blacked out windows so that they can be private inside, even as they move through public space.
    What strikes me about this issue and other issues elsewhere in the world where one group of people chafes against a law that restricts them in someway is that, all too often, it’s the group in power that will have to change the rules–and it’s really, really hard to think of an example where a powerful group gave up *meaningful* chunks of their power and not just symbolic power. Listening to your post and reading the papers out here, it makes me think that it’s going to take a lot more agitation from women (and the men who support them) for the rules to change… Great post (and congrats, by the way, on your Blogher award! Yay you!)

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  7. Olga @The EuropeanMama says

    July 4, 2013 at 7:28 am

    Oh wow, that really is something! I had no idea! I don’t drive myself (for totally another reasons), but I would be furious if I wanted to and couldn’t! It’s not about first world problems, it’s about controling women. Argh.

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  8. Karyn says

    July 8, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    In Saudi the moderate voice is the one that talks at home among friends but doesn’t really rock the boat. The extreme views tend to be loud and very well organised.
    A little side note to mention is there is no law against women driving. But there is a law against driving without a license, and women can’t get their licenses in Saudi.

    It should just be done! Just as the 30 women were elected into the shours counsil by royal decree one morning, this change can happen too. It would, by no means, be mandatory, and whoever doesn’t want to drive, doesn’t have to. But for the women who are paralyzed, stuck and unable to get to their sons when they are hurt, a key to a car is not much to ask.

    Reply
  9. Eva Fannon (USA) says

    July 24, 2013 at 1:14 am

    Wow is right – I honestly had not idea either!! Not being able to drive would make me crazy! I am my daughters’ driver – shuttling to drop-offs and pick-ups and after-school activities. Can’t imagine how it would hold back their participation in activities if I had to rely on someone else to drive us around!

    As for whose duty it is to change this, it made me think of Margaret Mead’s quote: “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed, citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

    Thanks for sharing Mama B!

    Reply

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