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October 22, 2014

GUEST POST: NIGERIA – #BringBackOurGirls

BringBackOurGilrs“My daughter said she was going to go to school so that she can wipe away my tears. How is she wiping my tears away in the den of the terrorists?”

-mother of one of the #ChibokGirls, abducted on April 14th, 2014, speaking on Day 188 of their abduction -October 19th, 2014

As I looked at her I realized that all this woman’s hopes and aspirations rest on her daughter. For most of the poor people in this part of the world, children are like a source of pension; they are the ones that will help you in the future. They are the ones that will take care of you in your old age, when you are unable to look after yourself. They represent life. As I looked at her I also realized that her daughter means more to her than I can ever imagine. Her daughter is her everything. A source of hope.

These parents are ready to give their lives for their children to have an education. That was what the #ChibokParents did. Amidst the insecurity in Nigeria, they still wanted their children to be educated to better their positions in life. They knew the only way to break the shackles of poverty was through education. For daring to send their children to school to have a better life, instead they have been punished.

These children grow up to not only take care of their parents but siblings as well so that a generation of people who have survived the shackles of poverty would emerge.

For some, poverty is going to school in the morning without breakfast and returning home not expecting lunch but still striving everyday to be in school so that one day you will look back and say I SURVIVED (I AM A SURVIVOR).

I remember  one of the fathers at one of our Sit Ins for the #BringbackOurGirls campaign—which started on April 30th with a protest demanding for the rescue of #ChibokGirls—saying he does not have a Television. All he has is a Radio from which he gets to hear of our activities. I wept! In this day of iPads, Tablets, iPhones and what have you, someone does not have a simple television that most of us take for granted.

So now you can begin to understand that to the #ChibokParents these girls are much more than daughters, they are future benefactors

A lot of parents, especially mothers, are forced to live a life of servitude and poverty in order for their children to be educated. The education that is taken for granted in most developed countries is not so in Nigeria and many other African countries.

I remember growing up and how my parents had to struggle to make sure we were educated. We often had to go without food when the situation grew dire but never were my school fees unpaid. I remember my father trekking long distance to buy a textbook I needed badly because the money was not enough for him to pay for a bus. All the suffering was for the children to be able to break the vicious cycle of poverty and one day to be able to take care of ourselves and also take care of our parents and siblings.

A lot of parents invest all they have in their children. For those who are poor, they do not have cars, houses or any investments. All they have are their children. Can you imagine these children being abducted, as is the case with the #ChibokGirls, abducted from school, where they wanted to get an education and make life better for themselves and their families? When these children of the poor are abducted and taken away, the future of a whole generation also is  taken away.

As I looked at the woman with tears streaming down her face, all I could see was my own mum, who had to be the head-of-household, who worked all day and night to ensure I had an education. I look back to the days when there was no food to be eaten and yet we found our way to school. I thought of what a burden it must have been for my parents to get us educated, to sacrifice all that they had.

While some of my parent’s contemporaries were busy enjoying life in the way they could with what they had, my parents tightened their belt to make sure that we, their children, had an education and of course today we are their pension. If any of us had been abducted while seeking an education, where would we be today?

As I stood watching the Chibok mother, all I could think about was my mother struggling to give her children the life she did not have and how hard she worked to provide that for us. I thought of my mother, now living in the lap of luxury because she worked so hard four sake. As I stood looking at the Chibok Mother, I realized she too must be allowed to break the shackles of poverty. She too must live in comfort, as her daughter promised her. Her tears must be wiped away. As I stood looking at her I realized that I cannot stop demanding for the rescue of the #ChibokGirls, for that Chibok mother who has given her all, hoping that one day her tears would be wiped away.

I realized that I must demand the rescue of the Chibok girls.We all must.

Demanding the safe return of the Chibok girls to me is like making a demand for the ME that was 23 years ago. As I stood I realized that no matter how hard it gets, no matter how much we are intimidated and harassed, no matter the threat of arrest from our government, I cannot afford to give up on the #ChibokGirls.

To give up on the #ChibokGirls is to give up on myself (the WHO that I have become) and to give up on the mother with tears streaming down her face, waiting for her daughter, who promised to wipe away her tears.

This is an original, Guest Post for World Moms Blog from our sister in Nigeria and mother of two, Aisha Yesufu.

Aisha Yesufu was born in Kano, Nigeria. When she turned 40, in December 2013, she decided it was time to devote her life fully to the services of others. As she describes it,

‘The first 40 years of my life I devoted to myself, so I could be financially independent and help others.  But they say: you can’t help the poor by being poor yourself, so the next 40 years, God willing, I am going to devote to others; for me, a full life will be based on what positive differences I have made in the life of another.”

And in came the unfortunate tragedy of the abduction of the #ChibokGirls. Following their abduction, on April 14th  2014, Aisha joined a group of like minded people to demand the rescue of  the 219 school girls, who still today remain in the hands of the terrorists. These girls, between the ages of 16 to 18, were abducted from their school, in their quest for knowledge. The group known as the #Bring Back Our Girls campaign has been able to push the issue of their rescue in public discussion both locally and internationally.

Aisha is the coordinator of the daily Sit In for the #BringBackOurGirls campaign group.  The group has, without fail, come out daily since the 30th of April, 2014, despite all forms of intimidations and harassment by sponsored persons.

To get involved in the conversation and learn more about the plight of the 219 Nigerian School Girls, visit: #BringBackOurGilrs

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  1. Simona says

    October 22, 2014 at 10:57 am

    May God Bless You, Aisha!

    Thank you for doing what may can’t (or are too afraid to) do. As a mother I cried reading this piece. I thank God that (although on occasion times were tough) I never had to make the choice between eating or sending my children to school. Even so, my children are my everything and I would give anything at all for their well-being.

    This whole saga has been horrendous and heart-breaking. All we can do is pray that these girls *will* be safely reunited with their families.

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  2. Jen @WorldMomsBlog says

    October 23, 2014 at 7:09 am

    “As I stood looking at the Chibok Mother, I realized she too must be allowed to break the shackles of poverty. ”

    Aisha, you have brought a deeper perspective to the kidnapping for us. I am so touched by how you see yourself 23 years ago. So powerful.

    Let’s #BringBackOurGirls

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  3. Tara B. says

    October 23, 2014 at 11:46 pm

    Thank you for sharing your insights, and THANK YOU for everything your are doing. We all need to be doing something to #BringBackOutGirls!

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  4. Purnima Ramakrishnan (India) says

    October 24, 2014 at 2:23 am

    Aisha, Thank you so much for this post here. And thank you for all that you and your team are doing to #BringBackOurGirls …
    This is so painful … I pray the girls come home soon.

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  5. Meredith says

    October 24, 2014 at 10:22 am

    Wonderful post, Aisha! You can bring a perspective to this situation that many of us cannot comprehend. I lived in Lagos for three years, and I did see first hand how hard it is for families to provide an education for their children. It is even harder in the North of Nigeria. Thank you so much for sharing this post!!!:)

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  6. Meredith says

    October 24, 2014 at 10:25 am

    I just had to leave one more comment…the way you desribe that children are their parent’s pension in Nigeria iss o very true. There is no retirement system set up in Nigeria and without their children, the elderly would be left to fend for themselves. You put it so eloquently!:)

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  7. Kristyn Zalota says

    November 3, 2014 at 11:44 am

    Thanks so much for sharing the context of these abductions: the difficulty of obtaining and importance of education is something we can barely fathom. The brutality of what has been done to these parents and girls is so devastating. Thank you for this powerful and personal post.

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  8. Aisha Yesufu says

    November 4, 2014 at 9:02 am

    Thank you all for your comments. We have to continue to be the voice of the voiceless. #ChibokGirls represent the girl child. We can not tell the girl child she is important and she should dare to dream and leave 219 of her sisters that dared in the hands of terrorists.

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  9. Cindy Changyit Levin says

    February 24, 2015 at 12:12 pm

    Aisha, you words are so powerful. Keep writing and help us understand what is happening in your country. We want to help and understanding is the first step. Please keep writing! -Cindy

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  10. Cindy Levin says

    April 19, 2015 at 8:20 am

    Thank you for sharing your passionate words here and at the world bank this week!

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