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October 23, 2014

PHILIPPINES: Invest in Yourself

inspirationI was recently given the incredible opportunity to attend a life coaching seminar about investing in yourself. Truth be told, this wasn’t a subject that I had put any serious thought into before that day.

Our speaker, the amazing Coach Pia from the One Core Group here in the Philippines, shared five aspects that we must be able to balance in our lives:

  1. Family
  2. Work
  3. Social Life
  4. Sense of Purpose 
  5. Self

After a quick assessment, I discovered that I may not have this whole life-balance thing in order. And I’m pretty sure that I am not alone. We all know that it isn’t easy to do this when you’re a mom.

Family, a.k.a. my son and my husband, comes first. Next focus is our home – making sure we are safe and secure, that we have food to eat, that bills are paid, and all of those other adult responsibilities. Work is after that, because as a work-at-home mom, I have taken it upon myself to contribute to the family finances. I am confident that each day is lived in fulfillment of my sense of purpose, so I get a check there. As for my social life, well it’s better now, and I do get to chat with many friends online every day. I also spend time with parents at school, and with neighbors and childhood friends as often as I can. So I guess that leaves just the “self” aspect.

How exactly have I invested in myself throughout the years? And why have I not asked myself this question before? My wake-up call came when this one powerful line was flashed onscreen before us:

What you invest in yourself influences your ability to succeed, to lead others and to make a difference.

We moms need to start investing in what Coach Pia calls our Hero Currency. This is the capacity to give of ourselves, armed with our talents, skills, and the enthusiasm we have for life. It consists of our commitment to personal growth, our ability to identify and accept our strengths and weaknesses, and our capacity to make the best decisions we can in every situation.

With every positive experience, you earn Hero Credits. These include monumental ones, like your child graduating or the day you were married, and little everyday victories too, like scoring an amazing parking space in the mall or choosing a salad over a slice of pizza for lunch. Things that have a negative impact on your life, like getting stuck in traffic jams or screaming at your child in anger, take away from your Hero Credits.

Assess your day and do the accounting. How much positivity do you put into your days, and how much of it is filled with negativity? Do you allow yourself to do things that fill up your Hero Credits, and balance out or even cancel out the daily negatives?

After this exercise, I discovered that investing in my self relies heavily on my perspective. I have to understand that success, whether big or small, begins with me.

I have to be able to gain focus, to sometimes just be silent and evaluate the decisions that I have made. I have to be able to identify my feelings and understand the reasons behind them. It is only then that I will be able to figure out how to convert my daily negatives into positives. I need to be able to open up to others and show vulnerability so that I can freely express love and concern. And I have to be able to work without seeking recognition and find total fulfillment within my self.

At the end of the session, I came to this striking realization: I have been investing in myself. The fulfillment and happiness that I get out of how I choose to live my life far outweighs any sadness or disappointment I may come across. Somewhere along the way of raising my family and creating a home, I managed to do something right for myself, too. I suppose that this means that I am exactly where I want to be in life, that I am surrounded by love, happiness, and acceptance. This realization really fills my heart with joy, and it is something that I wish for moms all over the world, too.

So, World Moms, are you ready to start investing in you? Then ask yourself this:

Where are you in terms of self-growth? Where do you want to be?

This is an original post to World Moms Blog from our writer in the Philippines, Mrs. C.

The image used in this post is credited to SweetOnVeg. It holds a Flickr Creative Commons attribution license.

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Patricia Cuyugan (Philippines)

Patricia Cuyugan is a freelance writer and the resident mom blogger at www.mrspcuyugan.com. She is a WAHM, domestic diva in training, real housewife of Ayala Alabang, and mommy to an 8-year-old boy who is known online as Little MrC. When stressed, she turns to crochet, chocolates and hugs for comfort.

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Comments

  1. Purnima says

    October 24, 2014 at 2:16 am

    Wow! Pat!! This post is what I needed to read today. I am filled with joy and love all around me. Thank you for that realization today 🙂 Love.

    Reply
    • Patricia Cuyugan (Philippines) says

      October 24, 2014 at 10:03 pm

      Awww, I’m so happy to read your comment, Purnima! Isn’t it wonderful when you realize you are surrounded by so much love? Much love to you always, my friend! 😀

      Reply
  2. Simona says

    October 24, 2014 at 6:56 am

    Yes! 🙂

    It took me spending a month in a Psychiatric Clinic to learn what you talk about in this post. It was *absolutely* the best thing I ever did for myself and my family. I have learnt to stop taking everything too personally, and to try and see the other side of each situation. Over the past few years I have come to recognize that there are positives and negatives to *absolutely everything*!

    I am extremely grateful for everything I have already experienced in this life, which has led me to where I am right now … rich in Hero Credits! 🙂

    Reply
    • Patricia Cuyugan (Philippines) says

      October 24, 2014 at 10:06 pm

      You are so brave and strong, Simona! I really look up to you, you know? Here’s to being rich in Hero Credits! I;m so happy and proud of you for being where you are now. Hugs!

      Reply
  3. Jennifer Burden says

    October 24, 2014 at 11:16 am

    I needed this post, too, Martine. I will continue to reflect on how to invest in me… Thank you for writing it!

    Reply
    • Patricia Cuyugan (Philippines) says

      October 24, 2014 at 10:07 pm

      It’s Patty, Jen hehe! And yes, I feel all of us mommies should pay attention to how we invest in ourselves. 🙂 Let’s remind each other of that okay?

      Reply
      • Jen @WorldMomsBlog says

        November 2, 2014 at 7:46 am

        Ahhhhh!!!! Martine has probably been wondering why I have been tweeting it to her!!!! Sorry, Patty!!!

        Reply
  4. Olga @The EuropeanMama says

    October 26, 2014 at 4:14 am

    Reminds me of my Spooon theory post- but I am talking about spending while you’re talking about gaining. Love the positive spin on this, Patricia!

    Reply
  5. Mirjam says

    October 28, 2014 at 3:17 pm

    This is a powerful post. I have never thought of investing in myself through positivity. I always think in big terms when I hear the term investment, but yes, this is also a great way to invest in me. Thank you for sharing this.

    Reply
  6. Adwoa Gyimah says

    October 30, 2014 at 6:22 am

    Thank you so much Patricia for sharing this!! I surely need to invest in my hero currency. There are a lot we take for granted but it’s great to be reminded once in a while of our worth.

    Reply
  7. Aisha Kristine Chong says

    November 11, 2014 at 11:06 pm

    Truly a very inspiring message to us all – I appreciate you sharing and reminding us about this 🙂

    Reply

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